You can really push my buttons!


It is not uncommon to hear someone say, “He really knows how to push my buttons,” or “I’m just yanking your chain.” The implication being that we actually have buttons and chains and they are available for others to push, pull and yank. What exactly do people mean when they say these things? How does believing that you have buttons and chains, on any level, interfere with improving your emotional intelligence?

For the benefit of moving your emotional intelligence into a more manageable realm, let’s begin by declaring: YOU HAVE NO BUTTON OR CHAINS! (If you do, you should see an electrician.)

Of course if you believe you have chains and buttons, you will behave as if you do. The same goes for believing you are Jesus, ugly, important, Sophia Loren, unimportant, beautiful, a genius or a nitwit.  If you believe it, you will behave as if it were true. You can believe you have bells and whistles, too.  Anything is possible within the confines of your own skull. Likewise, once people find out that you believe (on some basic level) you have bells, horns, buttons, whistles and chains, they will be forever grabbing for them and you will be forever behaving as if they have hold of them. This imaginative process (which is precisely what it is) alone is enough to inhibit or even prohibit the improvement of your emotional intelligence. For that reason, we will have to dismantle this dangerous button. Stomp the life right out of it.

First we have to find it.

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