Your belief in right and wrong, good and bad, best and better and your ability to distinguish one concept from the other is likely a very honorable system of judgment. Your beliefs illustrate for you what might be described as ideal behavior. Like you, however, people don’t always behave ideally. That does not mean you should compromise your belief that people have a great deal of potential to behave more effectively.  It does mean that you can make better choices in how you encounter weakness in others.  Simply because people don’t behave ideally does not mean they are bad or hopelessly flawed.  It simply means that people are not always willing to cooperate with you and your estimation of their behavior.  Noxious behavior unto itself does not render people irredeemable.

Hold on to your honorable beliefs about ideal behavior.  Do your best to express your honorable beliefs in your own behavior.  Remember, however, people don’t always live by your expectations of them.  In fact, you, yourself, don’t always live up to the expectations you have of others.

We all fail on some level.

Everyone has a perfect right to behave foolishly. And they often exercise that perfect right.  No one HAS TO treat you respectfully, honestly, favorably or kindly.  If they do, it is because they chose to; NOT that you chose their behavior for them.

Resolving that happiness can only be defined as pure, uninterrupted bliss may be your emotional downfall.

You do not NEED people to be considerate, empathetic, thoughtful, intelligent, selfless or brave. People can just as well choose to be inconsiderate, uncaring, thoughtless, foolish, selfish and cowardly.  And you can adjust and live happily in a world where they do – right alongside them.  Maybe not as perfectly as you could if everything went as you planned. But, considering that people behave according to their own standards, you might consider refashioning your definition of happiness.  You could experience, instead, a different kind of happiness – one that includes sadness, forgiveness, tolerance and patience.

You can call it hap-i-licious!

“How are you?”

“I’m hap-i-licious.”

“What does that mean?”

“It means I don’t have to live in a perfect world to be happy. Everything doesn’t have to be going my way for me to be happy – to be content. In fact, it is a pretty rare occasion when everything is going my way. I can tolerate people who behave badly.  I can feel sad for people who make poor choices.  I can forgive people who exercise their perfect right to be fatally human.”

“I want to be hap-i-licious.”

“You can. It takes time and effort to be hap-i-licious, though.”


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