EI Guide: How can I help you?
Learner: After I eat, I put my fist in my mouth and make myself throw up.
EI Guide: How is that a problem for you?
Learner: I don’t know; you tell me.
EI Guide: I will take a wild guess and say that you value yourself primarily on how thin you are?
Learner: You are right. But that doesn’t help me understand why I put my fist down my throat.
EI Guide: Well, what would it mean if you were heavier? More weighty?
Learner: It would mean that I was fat and ugly and I wouldn’t have any friends. It would mean my husband would divorce me. It would mean other women would criticize me. It would mean I was the object of a lot of ridicule and hatred. You know how people act toward fat people.”
EI Guide: I’m sure I don’t, but is it isn’t likely that you wouldn’t have any friends at all if you were weightier? I mean, unless you chose that outcome? Lots of weighty people have friends. I’ll play along, though. What would it mean if you didn’t have any friends?
Learner: It would mean that people didn’t like me and that I was worthless.
EI Guide: For that reason alone? Because you were weighty?
Learner: Yeah. If I were fat I would be a piece of shit. I’m a good person, otherwise.
EI Guide: Why don’t we spend some time talking about the system you use to evaluate your worth, rather than why you stick your fist in your mouth? I can’t stop you from doing that. I can help you manage this idea that your bathroom scale and other people’s opinions of you have become the source of your self-acceptance.
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